These post is about two girls I knew via online game, at a different time, but both have similar habit of playing with men. I had different role in both stories. I learned my lessons, and move on. But I want to remind myself, and tell you about what you would get by hanging around with toxic people. These is all true story, that I learned myself. I also don't want to mention any real names. KLMN Story It might be confusing to keep up, but I will try to make it simple. So, I have a friend, K, who invited me to play an online game. She said that her other friends was played also, so we could team up and leveling really fast. K introduced me with her friends, and two of them are a couple, named L and M. Unknown for me, L and K had history, they were close in high school, until L stabbed her in the back by dating K's boyfriend at the time. Even though K didn't like the fact that L was with M at that time, she didn't want to say anything, just hoped L was changed. Move on. After played together, K found out somehow, that L was cheating on M, with N. Since L and M was long distanced between two cities ( imagine New York and New Jersey), L often plays together with N. N told people, including me, that he dates L "secretly". You know how to identify a player. First, she doesn't want to break up with her current boyfriend with many reasons. She just want you as her back-up or toy, she wants a stable relationship with her current boyfriend, but still want you as companion. L told N, that she couldn't break up with M because of the close bonds between families. But for us, the outsiders, L just wanted M for facilities, stability, M is a successful entrepreneur, while N was no one. I believe L likes N because he adores her, and he is near (within the same city), or just simply sex. Who am I in the these story? I was a girl who secretly has a crush with M. When K knew it, she planned to break L and M's relationship. Because she just couldn't stand it anymore, and M was too good for player like L. K told M the truth about L and N, she showed the proofs. M was heart-broken. L was begging K to stop it. L told M, that she was deceived by N, and she was sorry about it. But in the end, for families reason, M forgave L, he blamed N for everything, and I don't know why, both L and M cut relationship with K. The ending
Well after all the drama, I lost contact with L, M and N. But still facebook friends with all three of them. I heard that L was still cheating on N behind M's back, until N found out about the third guy. But in the end, she found another guy who was more rich than M, She broke up with M, and married these new guy instantly. Now, she has two children with her husband. I don't know if she was still a player behind her husband's back, hopefully not. I'm not in touch with her not so ever, just facebook friend. I don't get M either, he ended up married another girl. We're all moving on.
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For today #planwithmechallenge and #bohoberrychallenge, we are supposed to journaling dear future us. I think I've write a letter once in college, addressed to my future self, which now think of it, I don't remember if I post it or just keep it and lost it. Have you write yourself a letter? Talk about future me letter, I still remember one episode of How I Met Your Mother, that Marshall wrote to future Marshall, which are the present Marshall, the hope, the dream he hoped, that made him realizes that none of those hopes and dreams came true. Just these Wednesday, I read my past blog posts. I remember writing one post when my father said to me a sweet words about protecting me, it's like a blast from past. Jan 12th, 2018 Dear Future Me, I don't know where to begin. But just reflect of your past, that's my current me. I'm 30 years old single. I lived in Kayu Putih, one block from my brother's mother in law's house and one block from his future home. I have one dog, named Summer. I worked with my parents. So how was it? Anything changed from that? How's Mom? How's Dad? 3 months from now, he will do another PET SCAN, his left thumb finger is shaken. I'm planning to travel to Japan with my friend, right now. Did I go? How was it? Have you done solo travel in our bucket list? Are you still blogging? Or just reading your past blog for nostalgia? Are you healthy? Still maintain your weight? Still yoga? If not, let's sign up for one class after these. My new hobby for 2018 is journaling. Am I still do that? All experiences make who we are, that's who I am. We can't change the past, but let's live the best life. Say YES to new adventure, it's my 2018 mantra, and I hope you remember it. After read these, I hope you do : 1. Pamper yourself, have a nice good spa day, or go manicure pedicure, or just have mask at home. 2. Let's go travel, alone or with someone. Or just do that alone adventure, right now!! 3. Say love to family. Mom, Dad, Brother, Nephews, new family members. Please still being me, the B type girl! Love, Your Past / Younger Self. Oh yeah, I found these website called FutureMe, basically it allow you to write a future mail for yourself. You can set up the date that if you want, like 5 years from now, or the exact date. I copy my mail above and send it for my 35 years old self.
Let's write your future self, a letter, and see how time changes when you open it in the future. Who said dating nowadays is easy, was lying. It's hard to find a people who you will compatible with. Yeah, you can said it's easy if you just want to hook up. I'm already in one social dating sites for I don't know how long, one of my friend already married with the boy she met online. I'm happy for her, and she always pushes me to find one, she is afraid of me ended up lonely, and thank you for that. But I don't need one more person to remind me why I'm still single. But while I'm on these dating sites, I've meet three boys that I knew in real life who has a relationship but still lurking around in dating sites. #1 The first male friend that I found out lurking in social media, was my high school friends. He and his fiancee was high-school sweethearts, so I know both of them. It's only months away, they will get married, and I found him online. Since I'm not close with both of them, so I just blind side my eye for a while. Probably he was bored and curious before making a big commitment. #2 The second male friend that I found was also in status of somebody's fiance. I still remember correctly that I just saw him proposing to his fiancee just days before. Then I found him on social dating apps. I knew him, and he has a cheating history once. Well, since I know him as my friend, and I don't know his fiancee, so I just let it go. My friends told me probably it's his old account that never got deleted. Well, all I know is if you don't open your account, you wouldn't be showed up. #3
The third male friend is the one that unforgivable. One, he is married to my friend. Second, his marriages was only in May, 7 months a go, and he is already cheating. Third, his wife or my friend is pregnant now. Four, he is definitely ONLINE, so it's not his "account that he forget he has" I told my friends about it (not his wife) that I found my other friend's husband online in social dating apps, they also speechless, but I decided not to meddling in someone else's marriage, because I learned my lesson recently (another story another time). I opened his profile, and he is definitely looking for SEX. He stated his location is Jakarta, well my friend lives in another city, as far as I know. I know they did long distance relationship, but I never asked how it would change after marriage, but I guess I found out it's not changed. Oh yeah,I also found in his social media pages, he never post anything about his wife. And any posts that my friend tagged him was removed. Hmm, really!!?? I meant my friends (#1 and #2)'s social media profiles still contains many picture with their girlfriends / fiancees, but #3 intentionally removed every tag his wife did, that means he does want to cheat, I assume. So, what do you think? I mean, if you are in strong and solid relationship, you would never ever think about chatting someone else in social dating, right? Would you say it's cheating? Well, I say it's cheating. I could forgive #1 and #2 since they're not married yet. But #3, really? While your wife is pregnant? |
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